(Written by Elle Yi and Danny V.) Some parents think that once their child leaves the house in the morning for school, the child is the schools problem. Any issue that might come up, like not getting along with other kids, getting mouthy with teachers or not doing all their work is a problem that the school needs to handle, not the parents.
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So here is the deal, as your child goes through school, no matter how big or small the school is, parents need to be involved. I had an at length conversation about this with my daughter’s junior high principal during her 8th grade graduation party since I was one of those parents who was constantly in his office questioning not only what my daughter was doing but also questioning him and his teachers to make sure that everybody at the school was treated fairly and equally. Here are a few of the things that he told me would help if all parents did for their kids.
- Discipline Should Not Stop
The school has their own code of conduct and their own set of standards for disciplining kids, whether it is in school suspension, detention or losing a recess but it cannot stop when the child leaves the school. What he told me was that when kids are given consequences at school but not at home, they continue their behavior. He said that he could tell when kids would have consequences at home for being in trouble at school because eventually the behavior would stop and the child would eventually become a bright student who was rarely in his office.
- Be Involved With Schoolwork
The more you are involved with your child’s school, the better off your child will be in the long run. They will be able to see that they are important to you and that you will find out should they do something they shouldn’t at school. This does not stop with the discipline element in the school; it should also include the grades your child is getting as well. This does not mean that you have to go to the school and pick up their homework everyday or even call all the teachers.
Most schools now have websites where you can check your child’s grades and even see exactly what assignments are missing. If you have any questions about the missing assignments or low grades, then you should contact that teacher and ask them what your child should be doing at home. I had weekly emails with my daughters math teacher since that was the class she had the hardest time in. He would email me and let me know what her progress was, what she needed to work on and how her actions in his class this year would affect her next year as she goes into high school.
You should also be asking your child everyday if they have homework. When they do, do not just let them go to their room and do it, make them find a quiet place where you can give them the help they need when they need it. This will ensure that they are actually doing the work and not just playing around and telling you that it is getting done.
According to the principal, the more the parents are involved, the higher the chance at success for the student. He said many parents feel that if they contact the school too much, they are bugging the teachers, but in reality, the teachers like to see parents who are fully involved in their child’s education.
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