Who Wins The Mother War? Tiger Mom or Western Mom

Tiger Parenting Styles(Written by Elle Yi) The book, “The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” is already a huge achievement rated No. 4 in sales on Amazon.com.  The publication by Chua known as “Tiger Mom” will be on the other best seller sooner rather than later because even if mom and dad are stunned at Chua’s parenting techniques, we are still in a community of very competitive helicopter mom and dad who know that it is progressively more challenging to get our kids into college.

More and more, it is even harder for them to get good jobs after they graduate. Even though the parenting strategies seem extremely harsh, there exist extensive demands from parents.

Chua’s publication is making plenty of controversies thanks to the Wall Street Journal article featuring it titled “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior.” Nothing gets more attention from mothers and the mommy blogs on the websites. The book shows very astonishing stories of extreme parenting. What type of a mom indicates her child that she is “garbage”?

Chua rarely refrained from criticizing her daughters with many provocative words that fill her book; she indicates that Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable and even legally actionable to Westerners. The author mentions that Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, “Hey fatty lose some weight”.

By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue, talking in terms of “health” and never ever mentioning the f-word, and their kids still end up in therapy for eating disorders and negative self-image. Western parents are concerned about their children’s psyches. Chinese parents aren’t. They assume not fragility but strength and as a result they behave very differently.

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Furthermore, parents who show extensive demand for her parenting have to keep in mind that there are tons of researches showing marked and quantifiable differences between Chinese and Westerners when it comes to parenting.

In one sample survey of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that “stressing academic success is not good for children” or that “parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun.” By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers agree the same way.

Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers indicate that they believe their children can be “the best” students, that “academic achievement reflects successful parenting,” and that if children did not excel at school then there was “a problem” and parents “were not doing their job.” Other studies indicate that compared to Western parents, Chinese parents spend approximately ten times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children.

By contrast, Western kids are more likely to participate in sports teams. Therefore, parenting types and methods have been highly correlated with their own cultures and background.

In general, it is a struggle to persuade kids to practice the instruments they’ve chosen or been forced to choose and math. There are few who will practice on their own and that parents need to be involved on some level to help their children gain a positive experience from learning to play music or any other endeavors that require time and effort.

Parents have to remember that Chua admits the Chinese model does not dwell on happiness, nor does it deal well with failure. Parents have to be aware of this current phenomenon; some moms are willing to search for the key for ideal parenting methods, if one mom is considered as having a magic wand for converting your kid into a prodigy with Ivy League potential.

It is dangerous for parents to perceive that the extreme parental harshness is the key of any child’s success. Our children should not be victims of a specific and certain culture of perfectionism, celebrating a memoir of parenting that harshly judges any parents who do not push their children in the same way that Chua did.

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